Monday, September 20, 2010
Court today I'm completely drained emotionally. other then the announcements and saying we were present that was the only time we were in the court room. Our Lawyer and the stand in Lawyer for L's conferences with ADA and DHS in back room. L's Lawyer couldn't be there so ask for a fill in to go and say what she felt was in the best interest of L was to remain in our home. Then DHS or ADA accused fill in of coming and lying and said that her Lawyer said that if this last guy wasn't dad, then she would not contest anything, I was there she didn't say that, she said that if this last guy isn't dad then were finished testing fathers and she will agree on termination on all dads. Short of it is, L's atty coming to the reshuffled hearing of Oct 8 and the fill in said there will be fireworks going off because they are now accusing a lawyer who donates her time to protect the best interest of children in custody, of setting this whole thing up a purposefully dragging it out so we could adopt L. We do not have any relationship with this Lawyer she told us she was not on any side only the best interest of L, I really can't believe that DHS is doing this. DHS supervisor actually pulled L's normal worker from case she was not at court today"supposedly" had an emergency hearing downtown. All this to protect DHS policy of placing with family even though this person is a by marriage relative.Today I received an email from a cousin who has siblings stating she isn't on any ones side either and can understand both sides just hopes to remain a part of L's life, well of course that is a huge plan for me as well but DHS case is that this by marriage relative has a relationship with this cousin. Obviously by this email we also have a relationship and both want to have the kids connected so the difference is Oklahoma where they have many family members and visit every summer from GA, or Florida and GA.We had a great visit in July and got to know each other. Anyways crazy praying for word from God and to stay in his will and seek prayer for every thing we do.
Tuesday, September 7, 2010
Sorry if my typing is bad, my whole body feels so jelloish, as I have been shaking all morning. I was prepared for a hearing tommrow. As life happend I got a call at 9:20 from L's worker saying hearing had been changed to today at 9, oh my gosh I was in my jammies I said hold them we will be there. Called Randy through on my suit slicked my hair back and hit the road for the court hearing. So many detailsI can't explain it all long very long morning after deliberating in the hall with DHS supervisor because she was talking about us as if we were not there opps.. there we sat I intervened in her conversation and said excuse me since we are the foster parents you are talking about might I join your conversation, words were exchanged, judge called us in asked if we all wanted conference before went on record we all agreed when in room and discussed matters for an hour did not reach a agreemnent so Judge and DA and atty's set hearing date for the 20th we will be getting our own lawywer, and bringing in wittness's, ect. There is still case of a dad who has been tested but results not in yet..... A really good friend told me when I asked her, how do I stay in Gods Wil on this matter how do I know what I'm doing is from our God and she told me this, you fight the fight you fight as best and as hard as you know how and then when Gods Will happens you will know you did everything you could and it is and always be in Gods hands, thank you "Alethea".. Can you believe supervisor told me she is not working on emotions like me but policy it's black and white, I told her that there is much more then policy regarding the best interest of a child, you have to have emotion, love, and well being to beable to love and know whats best for a child and maybe DHS poliucy needs a bit more of that! Please pray as we walk in Faith, I'm going to try to put this song on here by Kutless it came on on my way to court it is amazing, "What Faith Can Do"
Monday, September 6, 2010
As a family, yes "Randy" too(the most important part head and leader of our home) we have decided to fight. We are going to do everything in our will to beable to raise our sweet baby girl. Mom has relinquished as of last week and a hearing had been set this Wed. to discuss permancey. You see their is us, who birthmom made known to atty's and District Attorney in conference that she wanted us to adopt and raise baby L. Birthmom doesn't even know this "relative" that has been approved by OKDHS as L's placement. This relative is related by.... Her sister is married to a brother in law somewhere in the family. We have had L in our home for 6 months so we can be heard by a fair hearing as far as why we feel we are wanting to raise her as our own. So.... we goto court Wednesday at 10:30 please pray we know we can only so so much and it is in God's will and we will know whatever the outcome at that point is God's will. I'm praying the DA, Judge, and all the atty's have ears to hear us and how we long to raise her as our own. Family if your reading this and don't know why we have not shared this it is because everything is out of our hands for the most part and explaining over and over again everything is exhausting and nothing is for sure at this point, so we are asking for your prayers and support, questions are hard at this point because we do not have the answers. The big kids have been personally asked their desires as this is a family discision, their wasn't much talk it was unaimiss that we try! We are walking in Faith and pray you will too. Love the Payne family